Are You There God? It’s Me, Candy.

Don’t ask me what’s next because I don’t even know.
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While my adolescent days are long gone, I can relate to the classic novel and now Blockbuster film’s protagonist Margaret. Sometimes, I feel confused about where I belong and wonder what the next season of my life has in store for me. I turn to God for answers but ultimately know I have to make the decisions. And trust me, I have been spending a lot of time chatting with God.

Saying goodbye… maybe?

Eight months ago, I decided to leave my career. I loved what I did, but I was homesick and exhausted. A big part of the latter feeling fell on me.

Shooting my own standup in DeRidder, Louisiana, in 2015.

I can be an overachiever, a perfectionist and a little Type A. A good but unhealthy combo if not administered in moderation. I think a lot of people in news are that way. We all want to do a good job. We all strive to serve our community the best we can. And sometimes, in that process, we forget to put ourselves first. Some have a hard time finding that balance between work and home. I know I did so with a heavy heart, I decided to leave. I needed a break.

I have been on that break ever since.

Next Chapter

By nature, I am curious, so I am very open to trying new things. I figured I would have a job by now—part of the problem I don’t know what to do. Sometimes, I get a million ideas. Maybe I should become a doughnut master. That would be sweet. No, too early. I would be working the same hours I used to have as a morning reporter. How about a coffee shop? I can learn how to make all the drinks. Next.

One recent idea I did follow through with is this blog. Thanks to a former coworker and friend, Kate, who suggested I start one during my month-long travel adventure in Mexico with my parents. I will write about that in more detail later. It took me a bit to get here, but here we are. I want to use this platform to document my adventures and share stories.

Most of my peers and dear friends I have made who have “left the business” tend to become communications professionals. These are the people who are in charge of all communications for public and private organizations that could include anything from cities and counties to schools and tech companies.

My newsie friends turned communications professionals, except for Andy (and Jon, who is a talented attorney), who is, in a way, through social media, still fighting the good fight.

Most would assume that would be my next step. However, I am not sure. What stops me? Imposter Syndrome. My biggest flaw is that I sometimes doubt myself. I used to have a manager (he knows who he is) who I sometimes thought hated my work, but when that coworker left, he told me to stop doubting myself and that I always did a great job. I wanted to do my best, so I would give it my all. Sometimes that meant working later than I should have. But I did it because I genuinely loved it. He, along with many others, would always tell me to “go home” to get some rest.

Mi familia
Mom and Dad at the 2018 annual Mozart’s Christmas Light Show in Austin.

Now, I am home. And, trust me, I love it. I am not complaining. I am spending quality time with the ones I love and am blessed to have the opportunity to stop and smell the roses, honestly. Why was it so important for me to go home? I am an only child of two older parents. My mom doesn’t have the same pep in her step today that she did about ten years ago. She tries, but mild arthritis in her knee attempts to hold her back.

My dad will be 77 years old this month. Yes, he’s a baby boomer.

He gives off the vibes of someone still in their 50s. I feel like he thinks he is, but I understand that is not the reality. I know time is linear.

I am and want to make the most of my time with them.

My dad was waiting for the Congress Bridge bats to emerge in Austin, Texas.

Whatever I decide to do next (for the long term) has to meet my goals.

Why do I say long-term? Because while I do shut down, what I will call ‘my enthusiastic ideas,’ I am open to trying them. Who knows? I could be the next Iron Chef. Just kidding. I don’t want to say I doubt it, but I also don’t live in la-la land. I approach everything with a sense of curiosity grounded in reality.

“Try anything and everything,” my friends and loved ones have said. They’re right. Right now is the best time to do it. I’m not married, and I don’t have children. I am young and able-bodied. Most importantly, I have time.

Plus, you’ll only know if you like or dislike something once you try it. I already got the opportunity to fulfill one of my dreams. It doesn’t have to end there. Being a storyteller is a lifelong passion. If you’re wondering why I titled the headline earlier, ‘Saying goodbye… maybe?’ it’s because you never know; I may return to TV news. I do love it. However, for now, I plan to try other opportunities.

I eventually want a job close to home, where I can finish the workday by 5 p.m. (just in time for happy hour), and federal holidays are standard. Life is full of chapters and seasons; this is my next one. What it holds? Who knows. I can only say that, like the training bra Margaret tries on, change can be uncomfortable, but it allows us to move forward.

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